A few days ago, we wrapped up October and Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
It’s never too late to bring attention to an issue that affects individuals and families across our nation, those who have served and continue to serve in the United States Armed Forces, including the CSRA.
Military service teaches us courage, loyalty, discipline, and sacrifice. We are trained to protect our country, defend our fellow service members, and stand strong in difficult circumstances. However, another battle often goes unnoticed: the one that takes place behind closed doors.
Domestic violence does not discriminate. It affects women, men, Veterans, active-duty service members, military spouses, and children. It can occur regardless of rank, branch of service, education, or financial status.
Domestic violence is not always physical. It can include emotional abuse, intimidation, threats, financial control, sexual violence, isolation, and manipulation. Sometimes the deepest wounds are the ones no one can see.
For many military families, deployments, frequent relocations, separation, reintegration, and the transition to civilian life can add pressure to relationships. However, stress, combat experiences, and mental health challenges must never be used to excuse abusive behavior.
As Veterans, we understand the importance of looking out for one another. We often say, “Leave no one behind.” That commitment should extend beyond the battlefield and into our homes and communities.
We must learn to recognize the warning signs, listen without judgment, and support individuals who may be suffering in silence. Too often, victims remain in abusive situations out of fear, financial dependence, concerns about their children, embarrassment, or uncertainty about where to turn.
No one should choose between personal safety and protecting their family’s reputation, military career, or financial stability.
Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It is an act of courage.
We must also remember that children who witness domestic violence can suffer lasting emotional and psychological effects. Protecting our military families means creating environments where children feel safe, loved, and secure.
I challenge every Veteran, service member, military leader, family member, and community member to be part of the solution. Check on one another. Speak up when something is wrong. Educate yourself about available resources. Most importantly, create a safe space where someone can ask for help without fear of judgment.
If someone trusts you enough to share that they are experiencing abuse, listen. Believe their concerns deserve to be taken seriously. Avoid blaming or pressuring them to make decisions before they are ready. Help them identify safe options and connect with trained professionals.
Resources Are Available
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233), text START to 88788, or visit www.thehotline.org.
- Military OneSource: 800-342-9647 or www.militaryonesource.mil for military family support and information about available services.
- Veterans Crisis Line: Dial 988, then press 1, or text 838255 for confidential crisis support.
- Emergency Assistance: Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
As we recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let us remember that the uniform represents service, honor, and commitment. Those same values should be reflected in how we treat the people closest to us.
Love should never hurt. Silence should never be mistaken for peace. And no one should have to live in fear inside their own home.
This Military Monday, let us stand together—not only for those who defend our freedom, but also for those who deserve freedom from violence.
Because protecting our military families is also part of serving our nation.
Military Monday — Honoring Service, Supporting Veterans, and Strengthening Our Communities.
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